About John

I grew up in Tennessee with the woods right outside my back door. Wandering through them gave me a sense of connection to Nature and to a certain Forest God. I'm a Druid in the Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids (OBOD), a member of Ár nDraíocht Féin (ADF), a member of Denton CUUPS, and a former Vice President of CUUPS Continental. I've been writing, speaking, teaching, and leading public rituals since 2003. My books The Path of Paganism (2017) and Paganism In Depth (2019) are published by Llewellyn Worldwide.

Meditation on Grief and Joy

For our Samhain circle this year, I wrote a ritual based in part on methods I use to process sorrow, guilt, and self-loathing. The various parts of this ritual guided the participants through simultaneously releasing grief and experiencing joy. After the positive response I received, I decided to post a modified version as a meditation for personal practice.

Let me start with a few caveats:

  1. I am not a licensed psychologist, counselor, or therapist. Please do not take anything in this as professional mental health advice.
  2. You may find the meditation tricky to read and perform at the same time. Rather than try to memorize anything, feel free to use the written meditation as a guide and add your own spin on it.
  3. You may not want to include this sort of work in your daily practice. Some individuals have little difficulties frequently being exposed to grief. I have to carve out time where I know that I can process both the grief and resulting emotional fallout without it inconveniencing my obligations.
  4. Be kind to yourself and have an emotional spotter available for aftercare, either in person or electronically. If you find yourself unable to process everything that comes up in a manner that is safe for both yourself and others, please reach out to someone who you know can and will help.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us via Facebook or email.

SETTING

Pick a location and position in which you are comfortable. Make sure that your surroundings are conducive to your meditation style (lighting, temperature, sounds, scents, etc.) Light any candles or incense you wish to use prior to beginning the meditation.

You will want to have something physical that you use as a representation of your grief and joy. CUUPs used rose petals at our circle; I usually use water, candle flames, or incense smoke. Feel free to use anything you want so long as it is external to yourself and involves a motion that you can use to signify going through each thing you are processing.

For the sake of convenience, I have used water for this version. This requires that you have a container the water is in and a location/container for the water to be poured. If you pour into a container, make sure that you have a location to put the water afterward (drains are perfectly fine for this purpose.)

MEDITATION

Make yourself comfortable and take a deep breath. If you wish to, you may close your eyes. Continue to breathe in deeply. Match your exhalations with your heartbeat. Feel the rhythm of Time attune itself to the beating of your heart.

In the house of your mind, enter the room where your sorrow is stored. Continue to breathe in deeply. Collect the losses you wish to remember and mourn today, but do not open them. Leave in that room the losses which are too close or not yet ready for release.

Now, enter the room where your happiness is stored. Collect the joys you wish to celebrate and remember today, but do not open them. Bring with you as many as you wish. Continue to breathe in deeply.

Leave these rooms behind. Open everything you have brought. Allow yourself to mourn your losses and celebrate your joys together. Continue to breathe in deeply.

Bring these losses and joys with you into the world and let it share in them with you. Continue to breathe in deeply and open your eyes if they are closed.

One at a time, speak or think of the losses and joys you bring for remembrance, pouring water for each one.

When you have finished, say, “For all that has been lost and no longer remembered, I grieve.” Pour half of the remaining water.

Now say, “For all that has been gained and not praised, I rejoice.” Pour the remaining water.

Make yourself comfortable and take a deep breath. If you wish to, you may close your eyes. Continue to breathe in deeply.

In the house of your mind, enter the room where your happiness is stored. Place your joys where you wish them and remember to visit as you need to strengthen yourself in your daily life. Continue to breathe in deeply.

Now, enter the room where your sorrow is stored. Place your losses where you wish them and remember to release more of them as you are able. Continue to breathe in deeply.

Leave these rooms behind. Feel the rhythm of Time resume its normal speed. Take a deep breath. Return to this world and those who share it with you.

Lit candle and chalice of lustral water with floating bay leaf.

Picture by Hannah Nutt, 2018.

 

 

Hannah Nutt

Coordinating Officer 2017-2018

Samhain Circle – Remembering the Year – Saturday, October 27, 2018

Bring your sorrows and your joys, and we will share in tears and laughter.

Please join the Denton Covenant of Unitarian Universalist Pagans for our Samhain circle as we look back at the past year.

Gathering will start at 7:00pm, with the ritual starting at 7:30pm.

Child care will be available for young children; older children welcome to participate.

Please bring a food or drink item to share.

If you have any questions, please contact us on Facebook or email us at dentoncuupstx@gmail.com.

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Gleichentag 2018 (Saturday, September 29th)

Join us as we honor Freya and Odin to find the warrior within ourselves and rise up to life’s challenges.

We will have a Sumbel after ritual to celebrate the bounty of the harvest and accomplishments of the season.

Children who can participate respectfully are welcome to attend with a guardian. Childcare will be provided for younger children.

For more information, please contact us.

Beltane Circle – Saturday, May 5, 2018

Please join the Denton Covenant of Unitarian Universalist Pagans for our Beltane circle.

Gathering will start at 7:00 pm, with the ritual starting promptly at 7:30 pm.

There will be three open fires.

Childcare will be provided.

Feel free to bring food or drink to share after the ritual.

If you have any questions, please contact on Facebook or email us at CUUPs@dentonuuf.org.

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“Walking through Khan el Khalili, a UU Pagan’s perspective on living in Egypt.” – December 3rd, 2017

Our own Cyn is giving a presentation at Pathways UU Church in Hurst, TX, this Sunday, December 3rd. Time of service is 10-11am.

Her presentation is titled:

“Walking through Khan el Khalili, a UU Pagan’s perspective on living in Egypt.”

Traveling as a single woman, and a member of a minority religion to a part of the world where the language, religion, and culture is so very different from one’s own is an adventure. Islam remains a very poorly understood religion in most of America, and the North African culture is very different from our own.

Please join us as we recall learning to live within the day to day world of city and village life in a modern Muslim country. Rach day brings a change in viewpoint, and a new way of looking at old habits. When can blending in be freedom and when can standing out be an advantage? Walk through modern Egypt and the remains of the ancient Pharonic one, through with the eyes of a modern western, Unitarian Universalist woman.

Pathways UU is located at 481 W. Harwood Road, Hurst, TX 76054.

We hope to see you there!

CUUPS Officers for 2017-18

At today’s business meeting, a record turnout of Denton CUUPS members elected the following people to serve as officers for the 1-year term beginning November 1.

Coordinating Officer: Hannah Nutt

Events Coordinator: Brea Henson

Membership Officer: Linda Masten, Emily Pearson, and Adam Henson (co-officers)

Treasurer: Cynthia Talbot

Education Officer: William Nutt and Morgan Milburn (co-officers)

Communication & Technology Officer: Rhys O’Brien and Gabrielle Milburn (co-officers)

Recording Officer: Gwenyth Robicheaux

Please congratulate our incoming officers and give them your support as they lead our CUUPS group in the coming year.

Also, please give your thanks to those officers who are stepping down this year: Bonnie Davidson, Erin Kane, Russell Griffin, and Debbie Griffin. As I announced in April, I am also stepping down at the conclusion of this term on October 31.

John Beckett
Coordinating Officer

New Mission and Vision draft

Below is the current draft of our revised Mission and Vision statement. We discussed it at our Spring Business Meeting – the membership asked the officers to make some revisions, which we did.

We will vote on approving this statement at our Fall Business Meeting on October 15.


Denton CUUPS Mission and Vision 2017

Mission

The Denton Covenant of Unitarian Universalist Pagans is a covenant group for UUs, Pagans, and friends with an interest in Pagan and Nature-centered spirituality. We welcome all who come in love and friendship to celebrate, learn, and serve with us. We are united by our commitment to UU values and our support of the Denton UU Fellowship.

Vision

Denton CUUPS is a home for all expressions of Paganism in alignment with UU values. We present public rituals that facilitate religious experience and meaning for our members and guests. We study, practice, and teach our religions and their sources, both ancient and contemporary.

We value Nature, our experiences of Nature, and our relationships with Nature.

We have a diversity of thoughts and beliefs about deities and spirits, and we recognize the inherent uncertainty in such matters. Nevertheless, we explore deities and spirits deeply and we form and maintain honorable relationships with them however we understand them, both together and on our own, even as we remain open to new ideas, new practices, and new experiences.

We work together to build a respectful and caring local community of friends and allies dedicated to supporting each other on our spiritual journeys and to building a better world here and now. We support our community by living in alignment with our Pagan values and by contributing our time and treasure as we are able.

2017-18 Denton CUUPS Officer Campaign

This year’s CUUPS officers have been working hard to make Denton CUUPS run more like a democratic organization and less like an informal group. While we still have over three months left in this chapter year, it’s not too early to begin thinking about officers for 2017-18 – especially considering we will have a new Coordinating Officer for the first time in twelve years.

It is not proper for the current officers to function as a nominating committee. Any active member is eligible to run for any office (one qualification: the Coordinating Officer must be a member of DUUF) and anyone who wants to serve should be able to run for an office without facing an “approved” candidate. At the same time, this year’s officers have an obligation to insure all offices are filled.

To help us reach the goal of free and fair elections, to encourage new people to run for office, and to insure we have someone to fill each office, we have come up with this campaign process.

The Election is October 15

The officer election will be held at our Fall Social Gathering, Sunday, October 15 at 2:00 PM at Erin and Tezra’s house. The election process is governed by Article X of our by-laws and nothing in this campaign process changes that. Nominations may be made from the floor and proxy voting is permitted for those who cannot attend.

This process deals with how members can announce their intent to run for an office. Then, if no one has declared for a particular office, we know we need to find someone to fill it.

Announce Your Campaign

A campaign signup sheet will be posted on the CUUPS bulletin board at DUUF prior to our Lughnasadh Circle. A signup thread will be started on our ProBoard site (if you aren’t on ProBoards yet, please contact Tezra).

If you want to run for an office, simply write your name beside that office on the signup sheet and reply to the signup thread (if you do only one, I’ll add your name to the other). That’s all there is to it. At the Fall Social Gathering, be prepared to speak for a minute or two about why you want to serve in that capacity and your ideas about the position.

The Details

  1. I hope this statement is unnecessary, but just to be clear: by signing up you are declaring your intent to run for the office. There is no “claiming” of offices.
  2. If two or more people sign up for the same office, we will have a contested election – the person with the most votes wins. Per the by-laws, if there are three or more candidates and no one gets 51% of the votes, the top two candidates will have a run-off.
  3. Two people may decide to share an office, as Erin and William (Education Officer) and Hannah and Tezra (Communication and Technology Officer) have done this year. However, unless they both freely agree to share the office, we will have a contested election.
  4. The by-laws prohibit anyone from holding more than one office at a time. Therefore, you cannot campaign for more than one slot. However, if you declare for an office and lose the election, you may be nominated (or self-nominate, if you’ve been a member for more than one year) for another office that has not yet been filled. You are free to make your plans known ahead of time.

Undeclared Offices

If no one has announced their intention to run for a particular office prior the next Officers’ Meeting on September 17 (at the Fall Camping Trip), the current officers will begin recruiting someone to fill it.

The Order of Election

Our by-laws do not specify the order in which we vote on offices. Since we have to have an order, as presiding officer I am declaring this order – which happens to be the order they were established in the by-laws. Since I am making this decision only on parliamentary authority, if anyone objects it may be changed by a vote of the membership.

  1. Coordinating Officer
  2. Events Coordinator
  3. Membership Officer
  4. Treasurer
  5. Education Officer
  6. Communication and Technology Officer
  7. Recording Officer.

Description of the Offices

Here are the descriptions of our offices from our by-laws, along with the people who currently hold them.

  1. Coordinating Officer (John) – Primary facilitator of officer and member meetings. Responsible for ensuring that all members serving as Officers are adequately fulfilling the responsibilities of their positions; serving as the primary liaison between the Officers and Members/friends of the chapter, between the chapter and CUUPS, between the chapter and the Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship Board of Trustees, and between the chapter and the community at large; acting as general spokesperson for the chapter. This officer must be a voting member of the Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship.
  2. Events Coordinator (Russell) – Coordinates with event leaders of the eight public rituals held each year regarding progress and supplies needed. Work with the Coordinating Officer to ensure that organizers/leaders are in place for all planned events, that meeting/event locations are reserved. Also responsible for maintaining chapter supplies.
  3. Membership Officer (Linda) – Primarily responsible for recruiting of new members and collecting dues. This officer will maintain the membership roster, be responsible for actively raising awareness of Denton CUUPS with other groups and the community at large, and will be responsible for follow-up contact with visitors.
  4. Education Officer (Erin and William) – Assists facilitators of CUUPS courses, workshops, and small groups. Coordinates scheduling for those groups, courses, and related activities. Monitors area Pagan announcements in order to present opportunities for education and involvement to the membership, and develops and maintains educational resources for use as needed.  Consults with the Membership Officer for new member orientations as needed.
  5. Treasurer (Debbie) – Responsible for handling chapter finances and maintaining financial records, collection of dues and other monies owed, and payment and/or reimbursement of any authorized expenses. Maintains chapter finances and provides printed financial reports to the membership at all scheduled Board meetings. One additional member must have access to chapter accounts at all times.
  6. Communication & Technology Officer (Hannah and Tezra) – Primarily responsible for managing the chapter calendar, publicity of chapter events, e-mailing calendar events, updating the chapter website and maintaining chapter technology.
  7. Recording Officer (Bonnie) – Responsible for preparation of meeting agendas, recording and distribution of minutes, maintenance of meeting notes and discussion topics, archival records and ritual scripts. This officer shall work with the members of the Board to ensure that all appropriate members are notified of meeting minutes, discussion topics and decisions made.

How can you best serve our community?

Denton CUUPS is the home for Paganism in Denton and the surrounding area. We provide a necessary and sacred service to the local community, and in doing so, we serve our Gods and our various Pagan traditions. All of us benefit from CUUPS’ presence and its success.

Serving as an officer is work, but it’s not a particularly large amount of work. I’ve been a CUUPS officer for 14 years – what I’ve learned in that time has been tremendous. This is necessary work, but it is also educational work, enlightening work, and transformative work.

I encourage everyone to think about where you can best serve, and to launch your campaign in the coming weeks.